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Hospice Offers Free Lunch & Learn Series

(GREENSBORO, NORTH CAROLINA)– Hospice and Palliative Care of Greensboro (HPCG) is excited to announce the new season of Lunch & Learn at the Lusk Center, a free lecture series designed to help participants with a variety of complex care and health issues.

Each hour-long workshop is presented by topic experts and held at HPCG’s Lusk Center, located at 2501 Summit Avenue in Greensboro. Lunch is provided, along with practical, community-focused resources.

Each event is free and open to the public. All workshops take place from noon – 1 p.m. with check-in beginning at 11:30 a.m.

The program is made possible through generous support from Beverly and Patrick Wright as well as the John A. Lusk, III Endowment Fund for Hospice and Palliative Care Education.

Visit www.hospicegso.org/learn for more information and to register.

Lunch & Learn at the Lusk Center
2019 Schedule


Advance Care Planning: How to Plan for End-of-Life Decisions
Thursday, March 14
Learn about advance directives, why and when they’re used and how to talk about end-of-life decisions with family.

What Really Matters: Changing Priorities Near End of Life
Thursday, April 25
Join us for a thoughtful, interactive discussion about the end-of-life journey and how to capture meaningful moments along the way.

Palliative Care vs. Hospice Care: What’s the Difference?
Thursday, June 13
Discover the difference between hospice and palliative care, how these services can help and who pays for them.

The Caregiver Experience: Navigating Rough Waters
Thursday, July 11
Caring for a loved one can be demanding. Join us as we explore ways caregivers can maintain—or regain—balance and hope.

Dementia Talk: Why Do They Do That … and What Can I Do About it?
Thursday, August 15
Learn practical strategies for addressing the four most difficult dementia behaviors: bath wars, social problems, aggression and agitation.

Beyond the Casserole: How to Truly Support Grieving Persons
Thursday, September 12
What gives real comfort to those who are grieving? Hear what deeply grieving persons wish others understood, and learn how to be of support to friends and family in grief.

About HPCG
HPCG, a nonprofit organization serving Guilford County and surrounding areas since 1980, is situated on a 14.75 acre campus at 2500 Summit Avenue. HPCG provides physical, emotional and spiritual support for children and adults faced with a life-limiting illness, as well as their caregivers and families. For more information, call 336.621.2500 or visit www.hospicegso.org.

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Tickets Now on Sale for Corks for Kids Path

(GREENSBORO, NORTH CAROLINA)– Hospice and Palliative Care of Greensboro (HPCG) will hold the 12th annual Corks for Kids Path fundraiser on Friday, March 8 at the Cadillac Service Garage in downtown Greensboro. This wine-tasting event benefits Kids Path, an HPCG program that supports children coping with serious illness and loss.

With a ticket purchase of $80, guests can sample a variety of handcrafted wines exclusively selected by Zeto Wine and Cheese shop, as well as locally crafted beer, hors d’oeuvres and decadent baked goods. The event also features an extensive silent auction.

“We are so thrilled to have Crumley Roberts return as the presenting sponsor,” said Kristen Yntema, president and CEO of HPCG. “They have such a heart for Kids Path.”

Since its inception more than a decade ago, Corks for Kids Path has raised more than $1 million for Kids Path. This generous support means Kids Path can provide quality hospice care for children, along with counseling, camps and workshops to children who are grieving.

Tickets sell out quickly. Visit www.corksforkidspath.org to purchase.

About HPCG

HPCG, a nonprofit organization serving Guilford County and surrounding areas since 1980, is situated on a 14.75 acre campus at 2500 Summit Avenue. HPCG provides physical, emotional and spiritual support for children and adults faced with a life-limiting illness, as well as their caregivers and families. For more information, call 336.621.2500 or visit www.hospicegso.org.

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How to Communicate with your Grieving Teen

 

Adolescence can be an exciting time of self-discovery and identity development. However, as adolescents seek more independence, families may find this time filled with disagreements and periods of irritability and frustration.

When a young person experiences significant loss during this already tumultuous time, their family may notice unexpected and concerning changes in the teen’s behavior.

Because adolescence can be a difficult time on its own, it’s important to provide your teen with consistent support and attention. The best way to help is to first understand how a teenager’s grief differs from an adult’s.

Depending on the role of the person who died, many aspects of day-to-day life may have changed, including the teen’s emotional support system, family structure, financial stability or living arrangements. Their entire sense of normalcy might be shifting around them—on top of their grief. That’s a lot to handle for anyone, but it’s especially burdensome for a young person who is not fully emotionally developed. The feeling that they have no control over their lives might cause them to act out in order to regain a sense of control.

Adolescents have their whole lives ahead of them. They are most likely not just mourning the person who died, but also all of the future milestones that person will miss (graduation, marriage, children). If they lost a parent or caregiver, this sense of “missing out” may be particularly keen.

The key to communicating with a grieving teenager is empathy and understanding. Keep all of the above factors in mind when approaching your teen to talk. Following are some tactics to help you guide your teenager through this difficult time:

  • Don’t force them to talk. Let them know that you are there for them when they are ready.
  • Give them choices about their future whenever practical and appropriate. This will help them regain a sense of control over their life.
  • Encourage them to talk to others. Your child might be more willing to talk openly with friends, teachers, coaches or mentors.
  • Be honest with them. Although it’s important to protect them from adult burdens (finances, etc.), being open with your teen about future plans can help them feel safe and secure.
  • Give them structure. Planning family dinners or game nights lets your teen feel a comforting sense of normalcy and routine. In addition, family bonding in a relaxed, fun setting may encourage your teen to open up to you.
  • Reach out to a professional. Enrolling your teenager in grief counseling or a support group after the loss of a loved one can be very helpful. Kids Path offers teen support groups and individual counseling facilitated by licensed counselors. Having a neutral space to discuss their feelings, and a group of people who relate to their experience, is therapeutic for a teen that is navigating grief.

To learn more about individual grief counseling or grief support events for teens, please call Kids Path at 336.544.5437.

HPCG Welcomes New Director of Beacon Place

(GREENSBORO, NORTH CAROLINA)—LaSandra Keen, RN, has joined Hospice and Palliative Care of Greensboro (HPCG) as its director of inpatient services. In this role, Keen oversees Beacon Place, HPCG’s inpatient hospice home.

Previously, Keen served as director of care management at Silverback Care Management in Texas. Prior to this experience, she worked at HPCG in various roles for more than five years.

“I had the great opportunity to work as a nurse under the direction of one of the brightest minds in the hospice movement, Pat Gibbons, who was the first director of Beacon Place,” said Keen. “Under her leadership, I learned how to connect the clinical aspect of nursing with the heart of hospice care.”

Beacon Place was first opened in 1996 to care for those dying of HIV/AIDS. Its focus has evolved as community needs have changed, and it now specializes in pain and symptom management for those facing the end of life. The 14-bed home-like facility serves patients with a prognosis of two weeks or fewer and who need more intense care than can be provided at home.

“So many families have been touched by the expert medical care and healing atmosphere at Beacon Place over the past 22 years,” said Kristen Yntema, president and CEO of HPCG. “I’m excited to see Beacon Place continue its tradition of compassion and expertise under LaSandra’s leadership.”

Keen brings extensive experience in multidisciplinary team management and clinical program development.

“I’m excited to enter this next chapter in my career, and I’m looking forward to working with our community partners as we care for those in need,” said Keen.

HPCG is a nonprofit organization that serves an average of 350 patients per day in Guilford County and surrounding areas. It is situated on a 14.75 acre campus at 2500 Summit Avenue. Since 1980, HPCG has been providing physical, emotional and spiritual support for children and adults faced with a life-limiting illness, as well as their caregivers and families. For more information, call 336.621.2500 or visit www.hospicegso.org.

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What’s going to happen next? Grappling With the Unknowns of Illness, Death and Dying

Some things that are comforting: control, knowledge, predictability and routine.

Some things that are uncomfortable: lack of control, the unknown, unpredictability and chaos.

When faced with a serious illness, having the answer to one simple question would make everything immeasurably easier:

“What’s going to happen next?”

You will find that despite hundreds or even thousands of Google searches and visits to the doctor, a definitive map of the future remains elusive (as does your peace of mind).

The uncomfortable truth is that there is no way to know exactly how an illness will take its course. Each person is different, and each illness is unique.

In a time of stress, sadness and worry, it’s incredibly difficult to accept that there’s no way to know what or when things will change.
So if control and a “roadmap” of the future aren’t options, what can you do to find your equilibrium?

  1. Educate yourself.

Although outcomes and timelines vary widely from patient to patient, learning about your or your loved one’s illness can give you some idea of what to expect. However, be sure that  your information is reliable. Talk to your doctor and nurses directly, as they are well-versed in not only the physiological aspects of the illness but also your specific case. Don’t expect them to tell you what will happen, but rather, what can or may happen.

  1. Live in the moment.

Rather than borrowing trouble and obsessing about how much time is left, you may find it comforting to shift your thoughts to the present. Quality of time is something over which you do have some control. Small, simple moments of love and togetherness are precious.

  1. Focus on Comfort.

A bowl of soup, a warm blanket, the sharing of memories, the smell of flowers, laughter and freedom from pain are some of the simple joys that life has to offer. Every small moment of comfort and pleasure is a gift, and actively cultivating those moments can improve quality of life immeasurably for you or your loved one.

  1. Accept the unknowns.

This is much easier said than done, but the most freeing way to live with illness is to accept that there really is no way of predicting what will happen. Be optimistic about what the future may hold, but embrace your control to create moments in the present. The less worry you borrow, the more room you make for happiness and love in your life.

  1. Speak with a professional.

Hospice and Palliative Care of Greensboro (HPCG) has doctors, nurses, chaplains and social workers who are well-versed in navigating patient and family care. If you are feeling overwhelmed, confused or uncertain about your or your loved one’s illness, call HPCG at 336.621.2500 to speak with someone who can help.

When Your Child Is Having a Meltdown: Tips for Keeping Your Cool

 

After the loss of a loved one, your child may become upset at circumstances that would normally feel minor. Although these meltdowns can feel distressing to parents, they often function as a powerful emotional release that can be beneficial to children.

We often encourage kids to talk about their grief feelings. However, some young children can’t verbally link feelings to their loss. Instead, they “melt down” in anger or sadness triggered by an unrelated situation.

These behaviors are an indication of nervous system dysregulation. Your child is expressing in an outward way what is happening internally at that moment. When children are dysregulated, they aren’t able to logically discuss the situation or problem-solve.

The following steps summarize the most effective way to respond to meltdowns and guide your child toward self-regulation. The first 3-4 steps may be enough for a preschooler, as young children process more with their bodies than verbally.

  1. Provide a calm and loving presence.

If possible, pause what you’re doing and move to be close to your child. Offer your undivided attention. Try to be genuinely curious about what’s happening, rather than focusing on immediately stopping the behavior.

  1. Name what you see.

Observe out loud what you notice about your child’s behavior and body language. “Jenny, you seem angry. I see you slamming your book on the table.”

  1. Validate the child’s experience.

Tell your child, “It makes sense to be mad sometimes. A lot of things in your life have been changing.”

  1. Offer sensory soothing to regulate the nervous system.

One way to help kids return to a regulated state is to offer a soothing sensory activity, such as:

  • Getting a big hug.
  • Chewing a crunchy food, like pretzels.
  • Squeezing and pounding Play-Doh.
  • Taking five slow breaths.

 

  1. Problem-solve together.

Instead of asking a child “why” they are behaving differently, try focusing on “how” to make it better or “what” could be different next time. You could offer to create a sensory station where your child can go when experiencing strong emotions.

A Meltdown Is Not an Emergency.

Although it can be uncomfortable or embarrassing when your child is very upset, the situation is rarely as urgent as it feels. When you react calmly, acknowledge needs and help with problem-solving, your child will be able to regain control of their behavior and reconnect with you.

Consult with a Grief Counselor.

If you are coping with changes in your grieving child’s behavior, you can speak with a licensed Kids Path counselor at no charge. Kids Path counselors offer free phone consultations to any adult in the community, including parents/caregivers. Simply call 336.544.5437 and ask to speak with a counselor.

Holiday Travel and Serious Illness

When a loved one is sick, figuring out how to coordinate holiday gatherings can be a real challenge, particularly if you have family that lives far away.

Before deciding what to do, take the following concerns into consideration.

  1. Is your loved one well enough to travel?

Plane and car rides are exhausting even for people who are in good physical health. If you’re unsure about whether or not your loved one will be comfortable during travel, you might consider asking their doctor’s opinion. Perhaps certain travel accommodations can be made to make the journey easier, or perhaps travelling isn’t a good idea at all.

  1. If traveling isn’t an option, can your loved one handle a lot of visitors?

If your loved one isn’t up for a plane or car ride this year, you might be considering bringing the party to them. However, depending on how ill they are, your loved one might not have the energy to entertain people in their home. For some, interacting with large groups of people is exhausting.

  1. Will your loved one be able to enjoy the festivities?

Once again, depending on how sick your loved one is, there is a possibility that they won’t be able or willing to participate in the usual holiday activities. A large meal, opening gifts or even staying awake for a few hours a time might not be possibilities. Ask yourself- are they physically able to enjoy this occasion? Furthermore, is their physical inability to participate likely to cause them to feel depressed, frustrated, confused or even angry?

If you don’t think that traveling or having a large group of people over is a good idea, consider the following alternatives for holiday gatherings.

  1. Gather somewhere separate, but nearby.

Consider hosting the holiday festivities somewhere other than your loved one’s home. If no one lives near your loved one, you could rent a house for a few days (websites like Airbnb are great for renting private houses). Then, you can have small amounts of people visit your loved one in shifts (rather than all at once) so they aren’t overwhelmed by visitors.

  1. Include them in the festivities that you know they can handle.

If you know the physical state of your loved one well enough, you can tailor small holiday activities to them so that they feel included. You might bring over a gift or two for your loved one to open, or make them a small holiday meal.

  1. Don’t be afraid to change traditions.

Even if your family has had the same holiday tradition for 20 years, it’s OK to change things up when you have a seriously ill family member. Don’t feel obligated to stick to tradition just for tradition’s sake. When making plans, consider what is best for the emotional and physical well-being of you, your loved one and the rest of the family.

Children, Grief and the Holidays

The holidays are a difficult time for anyone who has experienced a loss. Children, who grow up thinking of the holidays as a magical and happy time, may have particular difficulty reconciling the grief of a recent loss with the joy of the holiday season.

Depending on the child’s relationship with their loved one who has died, this year might mean a change in holiday traditions or special rituals. Maybe Grandma always let them help make the pumpkin pie, or their aunt read them The Night before Christmas.

How you support a child through the holidays after a loss depends on your relationship. Below are some suggestions for how to comfort grieving children during the holidays.

In the classroom

If you know that a student has recently experienced the death of a loved one, make time to speak with them about their feelings about the upcoming holiday season. In addition, speaking with the child’s parents or guardians to find out what might be upsetting for them during holiday activities empowers you to make accommodations if necessary.

For example, if you were planning to have your class draw a picture of their favorite holiday tradition, but you know that this will be painful for the grieving child, you could have the class draw a picture of their favorite winter activity instead. This kind of simple, sensitive adjustment can help a grieving child better navigate a difficult time.

At home

Make time to sit down as a family and talk through your plans for the holiday season. Make sure that your child’s feelings are heard and that you take their wishes into consideration when making decisions.  Remember that it’s OK to change or leave out a tradition to make this difficult time less emotionally taxing. If certain foods or rituals are too painful for your family, consider skipping them this year. You can always choose to revisit them in the future.

It can also be helpful to create a new tradition to honor the person who has died. For example, your family might hang a stocking for that person and fill it with special messages and happy memories, or light a candle at a shared meal to represent the legacy of that person.

Talk with a Kids Path Counselor

Children’s counselors at Kids Path are available to consult with anyone in the community about supporting a grieving child during the holidays. You can talk with a licensed counselor by phone during weekday business hours by calling Kids Path at 336.544.5437 and asking to speak with a counselor.

This Veteran’s Day

Jose Narosky is quoted as saying, “In war, there are no unwounded soldiers.”

Many veterans we care for at Hospice and Palliative Care of Greensboro (HPCG) come to us with complex feelings about their military experience. No longer battling for their country, they instead are battling serious illness. It is our role as trained hospice workers to guide them through this journey respectfully and compassionately, while recognizing the individual medical and psychosocial needs that can arise at the end of life.

According to the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (NHPCO), more than 1,800 American veterans die every day. Last year at HPCG, 333 of our patients were veterans, representing 20.5 percent of our total patients served.

If, as Narosky says, “there are no unwounded soldiers,” then we at HPCG believe it is imperative to open our hearts to the many veterans who wish to share their stories at the end of life. These are stories often filled with mixed emotions: sacrifice, pride, pain, suffering, grief and loss.

As a national We Honor Veteran’s partner, our hospice teams are trained to understand that many veterans never wish to appear weak or admit pain, even in the midst of great suffering. We pair veteran volunteers with our veteran patients, because they often know best how to support a fellow service member in the way they desire.

This Veterans Day, we join with our community to honor the men and women who served us. This day and every day, I encourage each of us—whether we are trained professionals or not—to open our hearts in understanding to the stories of veterans among us.

And if you are a veteran who is interested in becoming one of our Vet-to-Vet volunteers, please call 336.621.2500.

 

 

 

Kristen Yntema
President and CEO of Hospice and Palliative Care of Greensboro

 

The Rev. Lou Wallace Receives 2018 Peter Keese Leadership Award

The Rev. Lou Wallace

(GREENSBORO, NORTH CAROLINA)—The Reverend Lou Wallace, a well-known grief counselor, received the 2018 Peter Keese Leadership Award on September 5, 2018. Wallace is credited with establishing North Carolina’s first community-based hospice bereavement program at Hospice and Palliative Care of Greensboro (HPCG).

Presented by The Carolinas Center (TCC), this annual award recognizes a North Carolina leader in end-of-life care.

“Lou is a true pioneer in the field of bereavement counseling,” said Marcia Vanard, HPCG’s vice president of counseling and education. “She believed that hospice bereavement services should be available to everyone, not just those families served by hospice, and that has led to tremendous healing in our community.”

During a career that spanned more than 29 years, Wallace served HPCG in a variety of roles, including chaplain, bereavement counselor and director of its grief counseling center. In 1989, she garnered attention when she opened the grief counseling center to anyone who had experienced the death of a loved one. She was also instrumental in establishing HPCG’s Kids Path program, which supports children coping with serious illness and loss.

While no longer working full-time, Wallace continues to facilitate HPCG’s “Loss of Spouse” support groups throughout the year.

Wallace is no stranger to personal loss, having experienced the deaths of her youngest son and only daughter. While she seldom disclosed her own story, Wallace reflected that her own losses enriched her ability to connect with clients in the depths of their pain. Because of this connection, she was often assigned the most difficult or traumatic losses.

One such client was Rebecca Schlosser, who was counseled by Wallace after her 25-year-old son, David, unexpectedly died following a lengthy struggle with bipolar disorder.

“Lou Wallace became my guide, listening and helping me understand that my responses to David’s death were normal. At a time when it felt like my reason for ‘being’ was over, Lou helped me find my footing,” she said.

Wallace reflected: “Through my years as a grief counselor and chaplain, I have had the privilege of serving people as they find new meaning, constructing new lives. People say ‘I admire you for doing that work. It must be depressing.’ It’s not! It’s affirming, loving care.”

About HPCG

HPCG is a nonprofit organization that serves an average of 350 patients per day in Guilford County and surrounding areas. It is situated on a 14.75 acre campus at 2500 Summit Avenue. Since 1980, HPCG has been providing physical, emotional and spiritual support for children and adults faced with a life-limiting illness, as well as their caregivers and families. For more information, call 336.621.2500 or visit www.hospicegso.org.

 

About the Peter Keese Leadership Award

The award is presented annually by The Carolinas Center (TCC), which is a trade organization promoting quality end-of-life care and representing an extensive number of hospice and palliative care providers in North and South Carolina.

The Peter Keese Leadership Award is presented to a North Carolina individual who has:

  • Been affiliated with a North Carolina hospice or palliative care provider or end-of-life care coalition that is a member of TCC.
  • Devoted significant time to promoting hospice care.
  • Provided vision and innovation in an approach to end-of-life care.
  • Involved in fostering relationships with strategic partners.
  • Involved in hospice care throughout North Carolina.

 

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