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Second Tuesdays, A Summer Series

Come in from the afternoon heat for dessert, refreshing beverages and conversation with other bereaved spouses.

Tuesday, June 13

Courage. As we rebuild our lives, how do we find the confidence and hope to take on new challenges and reach beyond our comfort zone?

Tuesday, July 11

Connection. Loneliness is the number one problem for many bereaved spouses. How can we make connections and feel less lonely?

Tuesday, August 8

Compassion. In grief, we often don’t feel like our best selves, and we can get very self-critical. How can we develop more self-compassion?

All gatherings will be held from 2–3 p.m. at the Lusk Center, 2501 Summit Avenue, across the street from HPCG’s main building.

To register, please call 336.621.5565, email thecenter@hospicegso.org or click the button below.

Please note: This offering is for those whose loss is at least one year out.

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How to Avoid Yet Another Bath War

If you are caring for someone with Alzheimer’s disease or dementia, you know bath time can be a real battle. Your loved one or resident may say “I just had a bath!” or “Get away from me!” Sometimes, the individual can even become aggressive.

Why do people with dementia struggle so much with bath time?

First, people with dementia often don’t understand the “why” of bathing. They simply don’t recognize the need anymore.

In addition, bathing involves many small steps (going to the bathroom, getting undressed, getting in the tub, etc, etc.) Those with dementia can’t sequence the actions.

Finally, bathing is physically invasive. It involves taking off clothes, adjusting to changes in water and air temperature, getting into a tub or shower and having other people touch them and invade their space. Those with dementia can still feel very vulnerable, and bathing involves a total loss of privacy.

So what can you do to make bath time a little easier? Following are some tips to try.

Before you take on the bath, address other comfort needs. Is the setting too noisy? Do they have to go to the bathroom? Are they tired, hungry or thirsty? If they are already experiencing distress, it’s not a good time for a bath.

Is there a part of the bathing routine that this person used to enjoy? A certain scent? Shower vs bath? Warm towels? Big bathrobe? If so, work those into the routine.

Is there a part of the bathing routine that this person especially hates? Try to change that part. For example, if they hate getting their head wet, try using a dry shampoo.

If they say, “I don’t need a bath,” don’t argue or try to convince.

Go step by step. It may help if you don’t announce that it’s time for their bath. Instead say, “We are going to the bathroom. Now, let’s get your shirt off. Let me help you sit down on this shower chair. Can I wash your hands with this warm cloth?”

Move slowly. Speak in short sentences. Communicate warmth and respect. Ask permission to touch them, or at least give them notice.

Respect and encourage their autonomy. Let them make simple choices. Give them a washcloth. Let them do as much as they can. Sometimes they can complete a task if you start it for them.

Consider their wish for autonomy when choosing type of clothing. They may be able to dress themselves if they have tube socks, slide in shoes, no button-shirts, and elastic waist pants.  If they can do it by themselves, let them.  If they just need a little help, give a little help.  When you see the first signs of frustration, move in to help.

Be flexible! Do they really need baths as frequently as you think?

Remember, the goal is to get them clean and feeling refreshed. This can be done in a number of different ways. Visit Bathing Without a Battle to learn different bathing techniques.

If you need further assistance, call 336.621.2500 or email contact@hospicegso.org. You don’t have to go it alone!

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Overdose Loss Talk – August 22

Finding Comfort Together After The Loss Of A Loved One From Overdose

The Counseling and Education Center of Hospice and Palliative Care of Greensboro invites you to attend an evening event where you will hear from others who are currently walking the path of grief and healing after the loss of a loved one from overdose.

Tuesday, August 22, 2017
6 – 7 p.m.

The Lusk Center
2501 Summit Avenue
Greensboro, NC 27405

To RSVP, please contact the Counseling and Education Center at 336.621.5565, thecenter@hospicegso.org or click the button below.

There is no fee for this event. Light refreshments will be served.

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HPCG Offers an Overdose Loss Support Group

Thursday, June 22, 2017

(GREENSBORO, NORTH CAROLINA)–Hospice and Palliative Care of Greensboro (HPCG) has started a free support group to help people who are grieving the overdose death of a loved one. As opioid abuse continues to escalate, an increasing number of local families are left reeling from the sudden death of a child, sibling or parent.

“This is a very unique, and often traumatic loss,” said Kimberly Grove, a bereavement counselor at HPCG. “Those who are grieving an overdose death need a safe, nonjudgmental place to share their pain and begin to heal.”

The group started in response to growing community need. In addition to the pain of losing a loved one, the group’s participants struggle with the heavy stigma surrounding drug abuse. They often feel judged by others who question how they could “let this happen.” Many suffer from isolation after family and friends grow distant or refuse to acknowledge the cause of their loved one’s death.

Randy Abbott, a participant in the monthly support group, says the group “absolutely” has helped him. He recalls how some people recoiled when he told them that his daughter, Vanessa, died of a heroin overdose in January 2015.

“You’d see it in their faces. They wish they hadn’t asked,” Abbott said. “So being with a group of people who get it, who’ve been through it, has been extremely helpful.”

Opioid abuse is an epidemic, with a death toll rivaling that of the AIDS crisis of the early 1990s. Greensboro has averaged 24 overdoses per month since August 2016—compared to about ten per month just one year ago, according to the Greensboro Police Department.

HPCG’s Counseling and Education Center offers individual counseling, support groups and educational workshops to anyone in the community who is grieving, no matter how their loved one died. Thanks to generous community support, these services are made available to everyone free-of-charge.

“Addiction is a public health issue, and our role at Hospice and Palliative Care of Greensboro is to be a community resource for those affected,” said Grove.

For more information about the overdose loss support group, please call 336.621.5565 or email thecenter@hospicegso.org

About HPCG

HPCG, a nonprofit organization serving Guilford County and surrounding areas since 1980, is situated on a 14.75 acre campus at 2500 Summit Avenue. HPCG provides physical, emotional and spiritual support for children and adults faced with a life-limiting illness, as well as their caregivers and families. For more information, call 336.621.2500 or visit www.hospicegso.org.

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Yoga for Managing Grief Stress – August 17

Sheila Wenzel will guide you through simple breathing and stretching exercises designed to help you get energized when you need to face your day, and to help you get calm when you need rest and retreat. No skill or flexibility required! Mats and chairs will be provided.

Thursday, August 17
6 – 7 p.m.

The Lusk Center (across the street from HPCG’s main building)
2501 Summit Avenue, Greensboro, NC 27405

Free and open to the public. Donations are encouraged to keep programming accessible.

 To register, please call 336.621.5565, email thecenter@hospicegso.org or click the button below.

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Journaling Through Grief – August 3

Marcia Vanard will guide you through a series of journaling exercises designed to help you grieve your loss, remember your loved one and rebuild your life. You will not be asked to share what you write! Journals will be provided, or you can bring your own.

Thursday, August 3
6 – 7:30 p.m.

The Lusk Center (across the street from HPCG’s main building)
2501 Summit Avenue, Greensboro, NC 27405

Free and open to the public. Donations are encouraged to keep programming accessible.

 To register, please call 336.621.5565, email thecenter@hospicegso.org or click the button below.

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Mindfulness Workshop – July 13 and 20

Mindfulness is a special way of paying attention that can help you better cope with life’s stresses, including the stress of grief. In this two-part workshop, Kimberly Grove and Donna Anthony will guide you through a few simple techniques designed to enhance your sense of well-being.

Thursdays, July 13 and 20
6 – 8 p.m.

The Lusk Center (across the street from HPCG’s main building)
2501 Summit Avenue, Greensboro, NC 27405

Free and open to the public. Donations are encouraged to keep programming accessible.

 To register, please call 336.621.5565, email thecenter@hospicegso.org or click the button below.

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Love Never Forgets Dance Performance – June 10

“Love Never Forgets”
BodyTalk Dance
Saturday, June 10 at 7 p.m.
$10 Admission 
Van Dyke Performance Space
Greensboro Cultural Arts Center

Anyone who has experienced the death of a loved one will connect with the feelings expressed in this performance. Using  hip-hop, West African, swing , fire dancing and ballet, dancers will convey the depths and complexities of grief, as well as the healing that comes when on realizes that love is never forgotten.

“Love Never Forgets” was written and choreographed by Caroline Stevens after the sudden death of her 19-year-old brother due to a rare cardiac condition. Recognizing the importance of grief support, Stevens has chosen to honor Graham’s memory by raising money for the counseling programs of  Hospice and Palliative Care of Greensboro and Kids Path. Stevens greatly values that grief support is available, at no charge, for any child or adult in the Greater Greensboro area.

Tickets may be purchased at the door or online at  http://ccomp1.zibster.com/events

****Your ticket also includes the 6 p.m. Live Paint and Art Exhibit by local artist, Jessica Biegger, and a visiting artist from Poland, Sam Stevens. Guests will have the opportunity to watch an entire painting completed while you watch. 

50 Practical Gestures to Help a Grieving Friend


When comforting someone who is grieving, how many times have you said “If there’s anything I can do. . .”?

You mean it sincerely—you want to help—you just don’t know how. Yet grieving people often don’t know what they need, and if they do, they may not trust that your offer is sincere.

Next time you want to do something for a friend or family member who is grieving, consider offering a specific, tangible action. Think about their circumstances. What role did the deceased loved one fill—what things are now left undone? What relaxes this person? What is their current need? What is your relationship to them?

Once you’ve considered their situation and needs, take the initiative. Offer to do something specific. Here are 50 ideas to get you started:

  1. Help get the obituary done.
  2. Make a list of who brought casseroles and who belongs to what dish.
  3. Accompany to the funeral home.
  4. Make a donation in memory of the deceased.
  5. Grocery shop.
  6. Run errands.
  7. Drop off baked goods.
  8. Give them some nice coffee or tea.
  9. Help with thank you notes and acknowledgements.
  10. If it’s a colleague, offer to take a 10-minute coffee or tea break together. Bring their favorite beverage.
  11. Do laundry.
  12. Do dishes.
  13. Do home repairs.
  14. Acknowledge anniversaries of the death—1 month, 2 months, 1 year, etc. Set calendar reminders and reach out on those days.
  15. Answer the phone when they call.
  16. Show up if there is an emergency.
  17. Invite to stay over at your house.
  18. Help sort through and pack up their loved one’s belongings.
  19. Provide names of good handymen, auto mechanics etc.
  20. Clean up.
  21. Drive (kids to school, friend to doctor’s appointments, etc.).
  22. Invite to lunch, dinner or coffee.
  23. Bring dinner.
  24. Drop off dinner.
  25. Bring fresh tomatoes.
  26. Take their dog for a walk.
  27. Clean out the cat’s litter box.
  28. Take their pet to the vet.
  29. Take them to the farmer’s market.
  30. Invite them to take a walk with you.
  31. Encourage them to take daily walks with you—or schedule a regular day each week or month.
  32. Go bike riding with them.
  33. Take them for a massage or manicure.
  34. Give a gift certificate to a spa.
  35. Take their kids to a movie or out for ice cream.
  36. Babysit the kids.
  37. Take them for a country drive or an outing to the mall, yard sale, book store, etc.
  38. Accompany them to religious services.
  39. Go volunteer with them.
  40. “Celebrate” their loved one’s birthday with them.
  41. Invite them over for the holidays.
  42. Help organize finances.
  43. Help with taxes.
  44. Organize medical bills.
  45. Send a care package.
  46. Help them get back into the swing of things at work.
  47. Mow their lawn.
  48. Weed their garden, or offer to do it together.
  49. Drop off paper goods—paper plates, paper towels, napkins, toilet paper.
  50. Help them decorate for the holidays.

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Lunch & Learn: Options for Senior Living – October 5

Options for Senior Living: My parents want to stay in their home, but will that work?

Stephen P. Fleming

When your parents’ care needs escalate, how can you make sound, practical decisions about their care while respecting their wishes? Receive real-life guidance for navigating these tough, sometimes heartbreaking, challenges for families.

This Lunch & Learn will be presented by Stephen P. Fleming, NHA, MBA, president and CEO of  The Well•Spring Group.

Thursday, October 5
Noon – 1 p.m. Check-in starts at 11:30 a.m.

The Lusk Center at Hospice and Palliative Care of Greensboro
2501 Summit Avenue | Greensboro, NC 27405

Lunch is included. This event is free and open to the public. 

Call 336.621.5565 or email thecenter@hospicegso.org with questions.

Registration is required, and space is limited. Please register below by first selecting a quantity.